Saturday, November 30, 2013

How To Help Your Children Get Their First Job

By George Dodson


John is about to complete his high school studies. As soon as he graduates, he would start searching for employment. That is a tall order these days with the economic climate the way it is. He, along with about 40,000 other graduates from various schools, are competing for the same scarce jobs. That is particularly difficult for kids just getting out of school without any experience in looking for a job.

John's parents are concerned. The fact that there is an increasing number of unemployed children staying with parents, is naturally worrying them. They are wondering what they can do to help John t to find a job.

First, parents need to take it easy with their graduated children. Most of these kids know that they cannot live with mom and dad forever. They also feel the necessity of searching and getting a job. You need to support them when they need it and encourage them in the efforts that they are putting forth. Showing faith in them produces the best results. Even if you do not find expected results soon, you should not try to coerce of compel them.

Many youngsters do not have the ability for finding employment. This makes them prematurely give up the effort. Only way to avoid this is to provide them encouragement and motivation. You can also suggest that part time is OK temporarily. Student graduates that are at least working part time are set to move into a permanent situation when the time comes.

It would be ideal to be his friend at this stage. Proper communication would help you in knowing his needs. Many parents make the mistake of forcing their children to adopt their line of thinking in looking for a job. In fact, you should instead find out what your child feel like doing and encourage them. Show them empathy when the going gets rough. Work out a plan with them and make sure they are fully included.

By all means, don't be too soft. They need firmness in this situation because it is too easy to give up. If you feel that things are not working out then you need to step in.

You need to establish good rapport with your unemployed child. Agree on a set of rules and expectations and make sure you both understand the signs when these expectations are met. For example, If they need to fill out 5 employment application in order to drive the car for a week.

You must resist the compulsion to take over and do it yourself. This is going to be counter-productive as it would lead to loss of confidence of your child in yourself and vice versa. Keep in mind the world of job hunting has changed since you first started this endeavor.

Above suggestions would definitely help you if you want to help your child in his efforts for getting an employment . If you do, both of you will feel much better when that job comes along and trust and confidence will remain.




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