Tuesday, October 9, 2012

The Challenges Of Death And Loss

By Anne McKinney


Death, often perceived as the end of life and the inevitable ending of every human being is among the most dreadful thing that most of us fear. But, is it really death that we are afraid of? Or the uncertainties and unknowns that lie following this experience. According to Haruki Murakami, a famous Japanese writer, death is not the opposite of life but an innate part of it. It is safe to say that there is some truth to this adage - that death and bereavement is a part of being human, a reality that nobody can alter. However, being inevitable does not make the experience of death tolerable. Often, the demise creates painful and deep impact in our lives. Nevertheless,, we do not have an option but to go through the course of bereavement and eventually get the strength to go on without the departed loved one.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, a well-known Swiss American psychiatrist was passionate about her various studies in death, dying and near death encounter which led to her hypothesis of the five stages of grief. In her hypothesis, she stated that there are five fundamental stages of grief that are normal responses to loss, death or sickness.

The common acronym of the 5 stages of grief is DABDA. Letter D is for denial. At this stage, denial is the temporary defence mechanism which is either conscious or unconscious. Letter A stands for anger. At this stage, the person experiences a strong feeling of rage and it is often normal to blame oneself to release tension from the experience. Letter B stands for bargaining. At this stage, the person is experiencing strong emotions of hope that it's possible to bargain or postpone with the recent loss, death or sickness. Letter D stands for depression. At this phase, the person experiences sorrow, doubts and fear. The last letter A stands for acceptance. At this phase, the person progressively accepts the loss and starts to move on with life.

As humans, we have high respects our loved ones, in connection to that, we conduct a funeral ceremony to remember the life of the individual who passed away. In the Merlion City, funeral service Singapore offers a comprehensive coverage and concern regarding the culture, beliefs, religion and practices of the dead. In fact, funeral services in Singapore honours the religion of dead individuals by providing customs and belief sensitive rites such as Buddhist, Taoist, Christian or Catholic funeral services.

Without a shadow of doubt, losing a loved-one can be emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally stressful. So preparing for the funeral rites is quite overwhelming. These days, funeral planners have been equipped to provide a descent, beautiful and peaceful funeral service. This includes doctor's certification of death, carrying of the deceased's remains to the funeral home, sale and servicing of casket (for cremation or burial), clothing for the departed also called as Shou Yee, funeral vehicle, ceremonial rites and practices, flower decoration, food services and photography.




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